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GRADUATE AND MARRY? I was shocked when my roommate, back then in the university, said that she couldn't wait to graduate and  marry. I am not against getting married immediately after graduation, but I was expecting to hear something inspiring from a youthful single lady. I got another surprise during an evening get together in a youth fellowship, when each person was asked about their future pursuit; a young lady said she wanted to be a pastor's wife. I am not sure how such matter works, but I was sure eager to hear people talk of their wonderful aspirations. I actually wasn't truthful to myself anyway when I told them that I wanted to be a banker. I was in a youth conference one day, when the facilitator anchoring the aspect of purpose asked us to imagine where we want to be. He said, "Begin to see yourself in that position". Perhaps others were seeing, but I wasn't. I needed more time to discover myself. Everyday is for discovery. Let's make the...

In what appeared to be a desperate move to get an effective remedy for Katherine 's mysterious affliction her family back home in the South arranged for a native doctor to attend to the poor lady now writhing in bodily pains up to her bones. That lasted for two weeks without producing any solution whatsoever despite the exorbitant charges! Then friends organized vigil for days to solicit Divine help to which she derived some relief but soon relapsed into some debilitations and intermittent  fits of unconsciousness. Finally she was moved to specialist hospital for thorough assessment of the health condition which has now reached an advanced stage of complications. The elder sister, Dorcas  was earlier dispatched by the family in Lagos to go to Jos and take care of the kids and attend to her sick sister's needs. But Louise was preoccupied with her business runs in Lagos and showed no adequate interest in developments in Jos. Katherine's husband, Linus was aloof and dis...

Poverty is the label of a wretched beggar. It is also a disease that runs from the mind and out to the physical environment. In its adverse state, when the body and mind is being tortured, irrational and vicious strategy may come to play. For instance, theft, prostitution, ritual killing, or eventually from deep depression to suicide etc. Gladly, Obi didn't resort to any of the above. Hunger delivered him from being stagnant. How? Staying on a low income that could hardly take care of him and his family, dragged him to owing so much debt. He was embarrassed almost anywhere he went. New year's eve and new year was celebrated in hunger. No food and no one to turn to. He had gotten tired of church deliverance meeting because the last one he attended left him skeptical about their activities. He was asked, with some others to get some sum of money. But where can a hungry man get that amount, five thousand naira? Anyway, he didn't care if God wanted to live or not. He cho...

 Perhaps you have heard about  a brother taking over his elder brother's wife at his demise and as prescribed by traditional belief in some societies. This was the case when the phara-isees confronted Jesus Christ with the question as recorded in the Gospel of St. Luke 20v28-35 inquiring from the Lord about who became the real husband or the ultimate  fate of a woman who was married in turns at different times to her dead husband's brothers when they are all resurrected. So this type is not entirely strange even by traditional practices in some Nigerian societies. But this particular brief story will surely blow your mind as something unimaginable took place in the name of replacement (more like supplanting ) marriage with the full backing of church and family or so it seemed! The individuals involved are both high ranking  Christians of the Pentecostal brand, highly dedicated as well. Louise holds a master degree as her newfound husband which makes the matter ...

Love turning into lust is like the dying of a beautiful plant, the fading of colours, the flickering of a once brilliant light. But how truly can Love become lust? When in a relationship, one partner suddenly feels that the love euphoria initially experienced is lost, and that the only thing that binds them is just sexual activities; should it be concluded that their love had become lust? First the question to be asked is, "was their love true? Was it based on right and genuine intention? Could it have been that one partner simply savours the idea of being in love- a fantasized love; an infatuation? (This often happens in Ladies) Couldn't it have been that they were initially both in lust? At what point does one conclude that the love in the relationship is no longer there? Although, two people might love each other but not compatible for a marital relationship; that should not be a conclusion that love has become lust. It is better to examine your relationship. H...

Knowledge is power. It is a tree that bears fruit of freedom and great strength. Ignorance promotes weaknesses and enslavement. With knowledge, any situation can be conquered. One disturbing problem in our society is penury which has caused a lot of set backs we experience today. What could be the source and the solution of this debilitating penury? Poverty of knowledge is the root and source of penury and retrogression. The lack of, and insufficient knowledge power affects the ability and capacity of man to think thoroughly and determine the cause and the right solution to problems affecting human conditions in their environments. Knowledge power comes with quality learning and experience accumulated formally and informally from accredited academic institutions and apprenticeship under qualified experts. Knowledge power is more awesome than political power and even more useful to the country as well as the individual possessor than that which temporarily exist with less ...

 Many relationship begin with lust, and sometimes  leave the partners falling gradually in love. ..... Being in love doesn't exclude lust. In fact, lust can lead to love (Judith Orloff M.D, Intuitive Healing) View the previous post, "lust versus love" for signs of love and lust . So, examine your relationship and draw the lines between love and lust. For a healthy relationship in the long run, it is better to identify what you truly feel at the early stage. FOUR NEGATIVE GUT FEELINGS ABOUT RELATIONSHIPS (from Guide to Intuitive Healing) Watch for: 1. A little voice in your gut says "danger" or "beware." 2. You have a sense of malaise, discomfort, or feeling drained after you're together. 3. Your attraction feels destructive or dark. 4. You're uncomfortable with how this person is treating you, but you're afraid that if you mention it, you'll push him or her away.

Love is an intense feeling or affection and care towards another person. Lust is a strong craving for something. In terms of intimate relationship, lust is a strong desire to get sexually intimate with the opposite sex. According to Judith Orloff M.D's book on intuitive healing she discussed the difference between lust and love: Pure lust is based solely on physical attraction and fantasy--it often dissipates when the "real person" surfaces. ...... However, real love, not based on idealization or projection, requires time to get to know each other. Here are some signs to watch for to differentiate pure lust from love. SIGNS OF LUST *You're totally focused on a person's looks and body. *You're interested in having sex, but not in having conversations. *You'd rather keep the relationship on a fantasy level, not discuss real feelings. *You want to leave soon after sex rather than cuddling or breakfast the next morning. *You are lovers, but not fr...

Dreams die hard but give birth to more durable ones. The abrupt end to a dream is not common place unless the dreamer was day dreaming and building castles in the air. Dreams are invested with a resilience to sustain them through a lifetime once they are conceived and until they have been fully delivered of their objectives. We are bound to them as soon as something triggers our memory, even remotely. We can only fine tune them to fast track their reactivation with more vigour. Many careers or academic pursuit fail to materialize because they were unsuitable to the passion of those whom circumstances rather than their dreams determined their choices. This category of people had to revert back eventually to what they actually wanted to do after going through the tragedy of a misadventures. Most of this happened as a result of peer-influences or parental insistence to have their way. Even career guidance at a formal level have not quite ameliorated this unfortunate situation. The abiliti...